Does anyone else feels like they have 0 support from family ...
Hi girls,
I have been writing about my milk troubles and we still are stuggling.
What I found is that I get zero support from the family and it is being seen as an inconvinience more ten anything else. My mum says that I already have been breastfeeding long enough and maybe it is time to start formula.
My hubby generally thinks that breastfeeding gets in a way of our family life (that we can?t get out and it is much easier to leave the bottle to someone else).
I am just getting fed up? It is hard work and my toddler is running wild and I have no help.
Ended up leaving some expressed milk to my g-mum (she is back home) to feed him so I could take my toddler outside to play (he is absolutely impossible at the moment inside).
And I am upset?. I just want breastfeeding to go for as long as my baby needs milk and I am struggling and would do just with one day home doing nothing but feeding?
Have you tried to feed in a sling/mai tei/bjorn/ring sling, that way you can play with your toddler and feed yr baby at the same time. This would also make it easier for you to go out. x
I?m sorry you are having so much trouble! They have to know that breast is best! You have done a great job so far! A lot of women don?t make it that far with families not helping. If it is putting stress on your relationship with your hubby and hard for your toddler you do what is best for you! You have done a great job and given your LO a great start!
Try a sling? That?s what I intend to do when peanut arrives? so that i can feed and still do fun things with DS and pay him lots of attention.
As Peanuts mum, *I* will decide when I?ve breastfed long enough?. or s/he will. No one else!
What does hubby mean by "you can?t get out"? Is he missing his nights out drinking and having fun, or is he uncomfortable with you all going out together and you having to feed in public if LO gets hungry?
No, my hubby just wants to go out with ME. Just the two of us. He is missing quality couple time. Out of 5 years we have been together 3 of them I have been pregnant (had crap pregnancies so couldn?t get out much too)/breastfeeding.
About sling ? yes, I have tried and having fun with toddler and having baby in a sling is very hard? As for breastfeeding ? today I have been breastfeeding my lo all day. I am loving it, but i do feel the pressure from my family: "you have to think about both of your kids"?.
I had the same problem with everyone apart from DH? He was happy for me to do whatever i wanted to do. As it turned out i started giving Sid bottles at 11 weeks as he was really struggling with breastfeeding with his reflux and used to sick up his infant gaviscon before i even fed him.
Anyways stick with it if its what you want to do? like bana said, try a sling so you can feed your baby while paying with your toddler. When i was breastfeeding the support on here was great so you know you have that if you?re finding things difficult
Even with loads of support it?s bloody hard BF and having a toddler running round, so I can?t imagine how hard it must be for you. Can you take your kids to the soft play? That would let your eldest work off some energy. You can also try games that you can do while sitting on the sofa ? finding red/furry/square things, passing a soft ball to each other, singing songs, reading books etc. Stick to your guns hun, don?t let others tell you when to stop.
Thanks girls for your replies
I hope I don?t sound as if I am making excuses but:
1) My boobs are huge. Even to breastfeed sitting down I have to hold one boob with my hand and hold the baby?s head with the other.
When I am walking and feeding him in a sling I have a terrible back pain cos of the mixture big boobs and weight of the baby
2) my toddler is EXTREAMLY active (and I know what to compare him with). He wouldn?t sit around and play on his own. Books/cars/toys interest him for about 5 minutes unless somebody else is playing with him and that somebody else is me. If noone plays with him he goes on exploring kitchen units/bathrooms and cupboards. If not that he literally runs around from one corner of the room to another and screams (with delight).
3) kidsplay was a godsent but at the moment I am at my mums who is recovering from illness and there is also my 89 year old grandmum who is recovering from the broken him. It means that cooking/cleaning and stuff like that are on me. My OH sin?t here (my mum lives in the other country).
Basically I am ****ed
I want to breastfeed for as long as possible but I just really don?t know what to do. I feel that my toddler is suffering because of the lack of attention and it hurts me a lot.
But thank you girls for your support I guess I just have to let the nature take its course?I just hope that at least ill be able to mix feed for a long time?
Have you tried playing fetch with him? lol. Seriously, Kaya?s quite active and she loves chasing a ball. Remember as well, it will get easier, your LO will go longer between feeds and the weather will improve so you?ll be able to go out in the garden. Toddlers are robust and quickly get used to having to share mummy. Just make the most of nap times.
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